The transition back to school is an opportunity to reflect and introduce new ways of doing things as couples and parents.
Knowing what you don't want is an important start. That sets the stage for creating intentions for what you do want.
It is so easy to get sucked into the fast-paced routine that the days fly by and you feel like you're just knocking the ping-pong balls back and forth without even thinking.
Once you are in the groove, it becomes a lot harder to put down the paddle and step back. That's why this is a unique opportunity to do so before the balls start flying again.
I recommend that you consider thinking about the following three things with respect to your relationship and your kids:
- Have dinners together as a family. It is a natural opportunity to connect, bond and ask your kids about their days at school. If your kids are too young to ask about their days, it is still a habit that I highly recommend cultivating.
- Date night. Make it a priority to have time for the two of you on a regular basis.
- Check in with your partner and with your kids regularly. Make it part of your routine. Don't assume you'll just tell each other what's going on. It won't happen.
Change is a messy process. There's always a pull back to the status quo. There are always steps forwards and steps back. In my work with people, I approach most issues with the formula of identifying what the issues are, understanding why they exist, where they come from, and the function(s) they serve, and then formulating a plan for change.
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