You’d be a different person. You would see things completely differently than you do now. Maybe God would be an elephant or the sun.
We don’t tend to think about that when we describe who we are and what we believe. We become attached to our subjective truths as they develop and reinforce themselves and we “hold them to be self-evident”.
This is as true in religion as it is in politics and any other belief system that we choose to embrace and cathect.
I read the Carlos Castaneda trilogy when I was in college. One of things that I was drawn to was that there was so much mystery surrounding the author himself and whether or not what he wrote about was real.
“A warrior must know he is unimportant, but act as if he is important. That's a shaman's controlled folly. Nothing being more important than anything else, a warrior chooses any act, and acts it out as if it mattered to him”
“Dogmatism and skepticism are both, in a sense, absolute philosophies; one is certain of knowing, the other of not knowing. What philosophy should dissipate is certainty, whether of knowledge or ignorance”.
This leads to not listening, making assumptions and seeing only a two-dimensional version of our loved ones. That third dimension gets eclipsed by our projections. Learning to be in relationship in a different way involves cultivating an awareness of our projections and assumptions and getting curious about our loved ones.
Speaking of omnipotence :), today is the launch of the Love After Kids Relationship Toolkit, which is my first online program. My hope and plan for this program is that it is a living and dynamic entity that continues to evolve over time with feedback and interaction. My plan is to create a companion parenting toolkit in the fall. I feel confident and excited that there is some great information and resources in the course and I also feel humbled and open to as much feedback as I can possibly get to make it as useful as possible.
There's a launch promo till the end of March for $200 where you can get $100 off the full $300 price of the course. The coupon code for this is LAUNCHPROMO. There is a Facebook group for members where I will be offering support and answering questions in addition to the peer support. I'm excited about what feels like a next phase for Love After Kids.
I know that I know many things and that I simultaneously know nothing at all.
I know that the truth is a rainbow.