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A lack of intimacy is common after having a baby. However, taking a trip together is a wonderful way to recharge your batteries and get your spark back. Read on to find out how to create the perfect holiday to regain your sexual confidence as a couple.
Choose a romantic but affordable destination
When booking your room, keep an eye out for extras that might add some sizzle to your weekend. A Jacuzzi tub or fireplace can set the mood, for example. You can ask the property to prepare a sweet treat, for instance by having flowers or a bottle of champagne waiting for you in the room upon arrival. There are also items you can bring yourself to save money and enhance the ambience of a room, such as candles and travel-sized speakers to play soothing tunes.
Prepare your baby's caregiver
Leaving your little one behind overnight for the first time is difficult. Make it easier on yourself by preparing the caregiver as much as possible: Leave written instructions regarding your baby’s eating and sleeping schedule, along with all the supplies they’ll need. National Geographic offers additional tips, like limiting your check-in calls to just once per day, in the mornings, and bringing a reminder of your baby (like a photograph) to ease separation anxiety.
Communicate openly and honestly
It’s completely normal to be worried about physical intimacy after you’ve had a baby. In fact, one survey of new moms found that 61 percent were “afraid or nervous” regarding their first postpartum sexual encounter. Being honest with your partner about your fears ensures they will take the steps necessary to make you feel comfortable. Communicating during sex is also important: If something feels good or something else is uncomfortable, don’t be shy about sharing!
Be patient with yourself
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David B. Younger, Ph.D. is the creator of Love After Kids, for couples that have grown apart since having children. He is a clinical psychologist and couples therapist with a web-based private practice and lives in Austin, Texas with his wife, 14-year-old son, 5-year-old daughter and 7-year-old toy poodle.