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Motherhood: The Demands Never End

10/27/2017

My wife has been studying for the clinical social work exam. There are 170 questions and the exam takes 3-4 hours to complete.

She came to me this morning feeling frustrated because she can never take a long enough stretch to complete an entire practice exam without being interrupted. She is constantly having to start and stop and deal with demands and distractions from the kids.

Rediscovering Your True Self: Breaking the Bonds of YOur Conditioning

10/17/2017

As a child, you learn and internalize what it means to have and express your feelings and needs. For example, if you are repeatedly told when you feel sad that you shouldn't feel that way, you will learn that there is something wrong or unacceptable with feeling sad.

As a result, you develop coping mechanisms to manage the sadness. These interventions that originate as protective mechanisms have serious side effects. They make it harder over time to access your true or authentic self.

The Unconscious fit between couples: What we don't see that makes us click

10/10/2017

I had an individual session today with a woman that has been doing couple's therapy with her boyfriend for 3 or 4 months now (with a colleague that I referred them to).

It has been an intense and illuminating process for both of them. She had reached a point in the relationship where she had to decide between maintaining the status quo and avoiding dealing with issues, breaking up, or getting help.

True Relating: letting go of what we think we know

10/3/2017

“One should not try to dilute the meaning of the relation: relation is reciprocity.”
-- Martin Buber, I and Thou

True relating is about letting go of what we think we know

In his seminal text, I and Thou, Martin Buber explored the depths of how we relate, distinguishing between the I-Thou relationship and the I-It relationship. The latter is based on characterizing, labeling and experiencing. The former is a deeper way of relating that transcends our projections.

I-Thou happens when we take the leap into the unknown, realizing that the narratives that we are constantly creating about others are solipsistic, reaffirming the idea that the only truth is the existence of our own mind. I-Thou is about letting go of the thoughts, feelings and beliefs that keep us rooted in the illusion of knowing another. The more we let go, the more we open up to deeper relating.

Motherhood: The Demands Never End

Rediscovering Your True Self: Breaking the Bonds of YOur Conditioning

The Unconscious fit between couples: What we don't see that makes us click

True Relating: letting go of what we think we know

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