People get very attached to their personalities and ways of being. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard people say: “That’s just the way I am.”

Here’s the thing, if you are convinced that that’s just the way you are, you will make it so! The way you think becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
 
Thoughts are really, really powerful. Amongst other things, what we think influences what we pay attention to. In other words, we look for things to prove what we think.

What would you do if you were told you have one month to live? 3 months? 6? One year?
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What would you say to your partner that you haven’t said?
 
What would you do with your partner that you haven’t done?
 
What would you regret?

The following is a contributor post that I wrote for the relationships site called Your Tango on how love and relationships change over time. Click here to read the post.

​David B. Younger, Ph.D is the creator of Love After Kids, for couples that have grown apart since having children. He is a clinical psychologist and couples therapist with a web-based private practice, and lives in Austin, Texas with his wife, 11 year-old son, 2 year-old daughter and 4 year-old toy poodle.