Jennifer Scott is a single mom who writes about the ups and downs of her mental illness on SpiritFinder.org. The blog serves as both a source of information for people with mental illness and a forum where those living with anxiety and depression can come together to discuss their experiences. Based in Philadelphia, she enjoys traveling, working with animals, and seeking out new friendships and adventures.
Men and women often emerge from divorce or separation with deep emotional scars and a lack of direction. Where will they live? Who can they turn to for support? How will they maintain financial stability? It’s a frightening, anxious time. For those who have children, it’s often a desperate situation, particularly when financial resources are strained. It’s not unusual for single fathers, whom family court judges are more likely to rule against, to face hardship as they try to care for traumatized children who may not fully understand what’s just happened to their family. Other family problems, such as substance abuse and childhood anxiety, may be exacerbated by a situation that requires stability, not chaos and uncertainty.
Going it alone
If you’re having trouble making ends meet and your income could use a boost, you could start your own business. You can choose what you do, when you do it, and even what you charge. Whether it’s refinishing furniture, coding, or bookkeeping, there are many possibilities.
The “official” side of setting up your own business can be the daunting part, but it’s easy if you go through an online service. They can walk you through all the tough stuff, and it’s an affordable and easy solution for registering your business.
Going it alone as a parent can be a difficult adjustment, ask for help from friends or family during this time. Take the high road and keep your personal feelings toward your ex-wife to yourself when you’re around your kids. Most importantly, be there for your children because this is an adjustment for them as it is for you.
If you haven’t already read the book, it’s a great place to start - Relationship Reboot: Break free from the bad habits in your relationship.
David B. Younger, Ph.D. is the creator of Love After Kids, for couples that have grown apart since having children. He is a clinical psychologist and couples therapist with a web-based private practice and lives in Austin, Texas with his wife, 16-year-old son, 7-year-old daughter and 8-year-old toy poodle.