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Whether you are considering using surrogacy to start your family or are thinking about becoming a surrogate or donating your eggs, keep reading for helpful information to determine if this journey is right for you.
For intended parents
The cost of surrogacy varies greatly due to the various factors involved. Potential cost influencers include agency fees, advertising services, matching services, medical expenses, and surrogate compensation/reimbursement. According to Bankrate, you could be looking at a cost ranging beyond $100,000. It is important that you look up the laws in your state regarding pre- and post-birth orders, as well as surrogacy compensation.
For egg donors
- Be a female, U.S. citizen between the ages of 21 to 31
- Have a healthy BMI and be a non-smoker and non-drug user
- Have two ovaries, good family health history, and zero history of reproductive disorders/abnormalities
- Have regular menstrual cycles and not currently on any form of birth control
Once approved you will be placed in an egg donor registry to await a match and then start the retrieval process.
If you are on the opposite end and searching for an egg donor, you will work with an egg donation program to find the perfect match. Keep in mind the costs involved, which according to Circle Surrogacy include agency expenses for the coordination of egg donation process, donor screening, donor compensation, as well as complications insurance, all of which add up to roughly $27,000 or more.
- Be between the ages of 21 and 35 (age limit varies with each clinic)
- Zero history of drugs and alcohol
- Healthy BMI
- Have already gone through a complication-free pregnancy and birth
- Live in a surrogacy-friendly state
- Have health and life insurance, stable income, and partner support
- Ideally done having children
When choosing to become a surrogate, it’s imperative that you understand the level of commitment. You’ll be required to undergo medical screenings, fertility screenings, psychological screenings, hormonal medications, counseling, and must have a willingness to see the entire treatment cycle through. If you think you are ready, or are just interested in learning more, talk with your OBG-YN or local fertility clinic to gather information and receive step-by-step guidance on how to get started.
Surrogacy and egg donation, whether you are the intended parent, the donor or surrogate, is a big step but an exciting one. Take your time gathering information so that you can make an informed decision. The choice you make will certainly change a life for the better.
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