Talking to your kids about the move
If you are moving with children that are in elementary school
Try to keep the explanations short and to the point. Don’t introduce any additional changes during this period that might disrupt their routine even more. Involve them in the moving process and make it as fun as possible.
This age group is known to be more opinionated and rebellious. This is a very vulnerable time in their lives, and moving will undoubtedly create friction. Friendships at this age are extremely important, and there might even be romantic relationships developing. Ensure that you hear them out and let them know that their feelings are important. The move can be a great practice experience for the future changes in their lives, such as leaving for college.
Deal with school stuff before moving with children
- Organize transferring transcripts from your kids’ current school to the new one. This is standard procedure, and the school should take care of all the details. They should send all the report cards, test scores, and any additional information available.
- You could consider getting notes from teachers. Letters of recommendation or notes on any extracurricular activities could be very helpful for their new school.
- Gather medical records for the new school as well. They will need proof of immunizations and any medical history as well as allergies.
Get your kids excited about the move
Have a party for your children's friends
Moving with children long-distance
After the move
● Organize the kids’ rooms first. All the other rooms can come later as you will have an easier time adjusting. Their rooms are their sanctuaries and will remind them that not everything has changed.
● Give your children time to get used to the new school, teachers, and school friends. Be realistic and expect a tantrum here and there.
David B. Younger, Ph.D. is the creator of Love After Kids, for couples that have grown apart since having children. He is a clinical psychologist and couples therapist with a web-based private practice and lives in Austin, Texas with his wife, 17-year-old son, 7-year-old daughter and 9-year-old toy poodle.